Getting along and living with roommates


The hardest transition for me when I came to college was learning to live with someone.
I have never shared a room with a sibling at home, and I expected the worst.

I have a very strong personality and if you do not mesh with it, problems tend to occur; but I am very kind and honest.

I like to think of new things and beginnings as something great.

Coming to college was the perfect fresh start I needed and I was so ready to move into a new chapter of my life.

Freshman year, you get a random person to live with unless you choose someone you already know.

This is scary; do not deny it.

Everything you have that is important to you for living is coming with you in one packed car, to be placed in one packed little room shared by two people.

And you do not know this person, hence the scary part.

Meeting new people is great.

But meeting someone the same day you are going to be sharing living space with for nine months, not so great.

Getting along with people can sometimes be easy. But I have learned the hard way that you never know someone until you live with them.

After you survive freshman year, you want to move on with your life and get off campus.

You get your closest friends and begin searching for an apartment or house; simple right? Wrong.

Everything seems amazing with people and you are so excited to start a new year off great.

But when we move in and realize that those “best friends” you once had are completely different than you thought they were, you are stuck in a dilemma.

People surprise me every day.

I am always learning something new about people or how certain people handle situations. But when it is someone you are living with, things are trickier.

This is all a part of college.

Finding out who your real friends are and who you can really trust; and you never really know those things until it is put on the line.

Here is some advice.

One, when choosing roommates, choose carefully.

You really do not know people until you are forced to live in a confined space with them. Two, do whatever you can to get yourself your own room. No one likes to share a room, let us be honest.

And if you have to, make sure you get your own free time away from everyone, it is crucial.

Three, never underestimate people.

If you think something sketchy is going on, there probably is.

Four, always know what is yours and what you are willing to share.

The biggest problems I think come from sharing and miscommunication.

Always man-up and confront your problems because there is nothing worse than not telling someone what is wrong, and never knowing.

Pick good friends.

That is the main point to this.

Find good friends and stick next to them, and be a good friend in return.

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