Structuring the self-image
The self-image is the interpretation of one’s self; the very fabric that passes the ultimate judgment upon one’s well-being on any particular day.
Many believe their self-value, worth and general well-being is based on what others think of them.
Our society is made up of people, just like you and I, who over think and proceed to make judgments and decisions in our heads just because of one small misinterpretation.
Your hair is too long, your outfit is weird, the way you walk looks funny, etc. are all examples of minor comments people may make toward you; not necessarily trying to insult you, but merely to express what they are seeing when they look at you.
Now, the conventional approach to reacting to this kind of behavior from someone else would be instant insecurity.
The self-image becomes distorted and reduced to rubble over a comment or situation that happened weeks, possibly months ago from the present moment.
The general rule of thumb among students is just not caring at all about what anyone thinks — which in itself proves to be helpful — but I do not believe that ignorance is the way to rid ourselves of this feeling of unworthiness that comes along with minor remarks.
The way I see it, the best way to overcome feelings like this is to realize that, although that person did make that remark or comment toward you, the logical option is to become aware of yourself.
Realize that, ultimately, the only person who genuinely has a say of whether you are secure and confident as a person is you; no one else.
Other people may try to figure out ways of getting reactions out of you for personal benefit, but giving that reaction is what distorts the self-image to begin with.
People would have a much stronger sense of who they are if they would actually take the time to accept themselves fully for what kind of person they have become.
Once anything has been accepted — a situation, experience, person, place or thing the control that thing has over you is completely tarnished.
Nothing more can break you down because once you have accepted the person you are and have become comfortable with your self-image, you will soon realize how much potential really flows through your veins.
Motivation, understanding and happiness soon become your new drive to life.
People will open up to you, want to be around you and hang out with you because you are just being the best person you can be.
The only judgment that should get under your skin is your own, not anyone else’s.
I guess it is an old rule to live by, but I think the largest problem facing our society today is people not understanding and accepting themselves.
Do not be afraid of the outcome, because the only thing that is holding you back from greatness is the inability to accept who or what you have become in this lifetime.
That is just how I perceive the self-image, although many may see it in countless other ways.