Beauty is not only skin deep


One day, I want to live in a world without mirrors.

Without mirrors, people would not be forced to stare at the imperfections of their bodies and people would be happier.

I know that every morning there are people who spend a lot more time in the mirror than I do.
Standing there, debating if every hair on his or her head is in the right position and if his or her figure looks right in the clothing; let us be real, we are all guilty of this at some point.
This is a waste of time.

Imperfections are what make people real and human.

No one and nothing will ever be perfect, but that is not the vision society paints for us, is it?
Our society makes the idea of perfect seem pretty easy for people with money and fame, but not for the common people without nutritionists and personal trainers screaming at us at 6 a.m. every day.

What girl does not want to have that perfect Jessica Alba body?

What guy does not want to have an athletic body like David Beckham?

Every day there are visions going through our minds about what people look like.

We see thousands of people a day and without noticing, we are subconsciously judging every single one who captures our attention for a split second.

His shirt’s funny.

Her shorts are too short.

He does not have Nike socks on.

Her hair is undone.

These are all judgments that society has placed inside our heads. Who gives us the right to say someone’s shorts are too short or someone’s jeans are not the right kind?

Every day there are little girls and boys growing up in this judgmental, materialistic, bubble of a society that suggests there is one way to be beautiful or handsome and one way to be perfect.

Runway models, who look like they need to go through a McDonald’s drive through before they pass out from starvation, are what the generations growing up are aspiring to be.

As I watched Disney Channel on television the other night with the children for whom I baby-sit, I noticed not one curvy female displayed on the program.

Every female actress is a size three or less and has the perfect hair, skin, clothes and life.
Is this the definition of perfect and beautiful that kids are learning today?

Now, when I was younger, the television show “That’s So Raven” was popular.
Raven Symone, the star of “That’s So Raven” was a curvy, beautiful female.

She was one of the only actresses on that station who was not pencil thin and showed younger girls that not everyone has to be thin to be considered beautiful in this world.

But Raven too lost weight.
On March 27, 2012, her debut for her new show “Sister Act,” Raven came in 70 pounds less than when she was the star of “That’s So Raven.”

Nothing is more important than being healthy and confident with yourself inside and out.
But society today is taking us all down a mean path of diet plans, celebrity workout videos to “look like” your favorite celebrities and the constant reminder that every young boy or girl you aspire to be is thin and well-dressed.

And we call this perfect.But I am sorry, that is not perfect.

From the ’20s to the 60s Marilyn Monroe was a woman’s idol and version of perfect.
She wore a size 12 dress and size 8 pants, which today would seem “overweight” to our society.
Now, girls are dying to be Jessica Alba, a beautiful actress who wears pants that my one leg could not even fit in.

And why? Society has painted a picture for us that states you can look like her and you should look like her to feel beautiful in your own skin.

Feeling beautiful and being beautiful is not only skin deep.

You can be any shape or size and still be beautiful; but in this society, that claim is hard to prove.
Beauty is shown from the inside out and is not formed by society, but by you.

Being an individual is very hard today and I am a firm believer in the phrase “originality is dead.”
In this society, it takes a lot of confidence and a lot of belief to let yourself out there and be different.

We call this a “free country,” but our heads are not free from what is displayed around us.
Our minds still work in a way that we want what we do not need and we see everything that is displayed as “real,” but is much distorted.

I would love to write and help young girls find their way physically and emotionally.
It is hard to live in our society today, full of pressure and people needing and wanting to grow up so much faster than they should really want to.

Bottom line, make your own version and vision of beauty for yourself, do not always fill society’s trademarks.


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